Somewhere between the first celebrations of a Christian saint and the mass production of greeting cards, red roses and all things sugar, Valentine’s Day got out of hand.

According to the National Retail Federation, Americans plan to spend nearly $18 billion on Valentine’s Day-related purchases this year. That breaks down to just over $133 per person—spent largely on gifts that will be either be gobbled up and quickly forgotten…or wither and die within the week.

Don’t allow a holiday that’s centered on candy hearts to put your budget into cardiac arrest. Here are five Valentine’s Day ideas that will keep your spending well below the national average.

Team Up and Save

Valentine’s Day is marketed as a time to splurge on an expensive dinner for two, but who says you can’t share the love with some friends? Instead of dropping $100 at a fancy (and crowded) restaurant, have a double- or triple-date at someone’s house. Some candles and decorations from the dollar store can set the mood for just a few bucks. Share the cooking duties or order some inexpensive take-out to split. If you’re single, grab some friends and have a game night or movie night to celebrate on the cheap.

Just Do Dessert

If the urge to join the restaurant-loving masses is just too strong, go straight for the dessert. By eating a light dinner at home and saving your cash for a sweet treat, you can keep most of your money while still enjoying the ambiance of your favorite dining establishment. Even pricy restaurants tend to keep their dessert menus in the $5-$10 range, and who doesn’t love dessert?

Get Creative for Free (Or Close to It)

Roses and chocolates are great, but they don’t exactly say, “I’ve put a lot of thought into this.” Do you have a way with words? Try writing a poem or just a heartfelt note. If music’s your thing, make a playlist of meaningful or funny songs that remind you of your significant other, and include explanations with your gift. Photo albums, video messages and non-store-bought cards are other great ways to show your love for less.

Take Advantage of Money-Saving Sites

Discount websites can really come to the rescue when Feb. 14th rolls around. Check out Groupon, LivingSocial and Half Off Depot, to name a few. Restaurant.com is also a great way to save money on some nice eateries. Just make sure you check the reviews before you choose a restaurant. You don’t want to pick a dud and land in the doghouse.

Skip the Holiday Altogether

Just because society dictates the recognition of all things Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean you have to join the costly festivities. Some couples happily skip the crowded restaurant scene and enjoy a romantic night in. Take the $130 you might spend on the holiday and put it towards something more useful, such as debt or savings. Nothing says romance like financial freedom.